I feel like i always rant my way through my posts but i promise this is just a little moan with purpose.
So me & Jenine (my sister) went to a branch of wagamamas last Saturday for a couple starters at around 4.45 pm right. No word of a lie, we had some of the worst customer service ever.
We waited over half an hour for a glass of WATER, had a late starter delivered shortly after (which was obviously forgotten about), and didn't have anyone come over for the 'bill talk' for about 25 mins while all the staff avoided eye contact and sipped god knows what by the bar?
Listen, I work in a retail environment with all sorts of customers so i get it, it gets a bit much sometimes... i mean you work as a team but your'e still only one person with one pair of hands. But mate, it wasn't even 6 o'clock, the restaurant was more than half empty and the staff all looked baffled or bored. So fast forward to us GOING UP to the tills and asking to pay, one of the waitresses asked us
'Was everything okay with your meal?'...I kept quiet (on purpose) whilst my sister instinctively replied 'yes, thanks' Which leads me on to the point of this post. Why do we find it so hard to say no? Or just be honest in general?
According to google 60% of adults can't have 10 minute conversation without lying. I mean... we're all human, we're all guilty of exaggerating details of our lives to make our netflix + deliveroo filled weekend sound less sad. Or like you know those nights out you'd really rather not go out on? Why do we get so in our feelings by not being invited to things we were only ever going to say no to anyway?
Maybe we like the fact that we've crossed people's minds, had them go to the effort of reaching out to us, and given us the option to decline the invitation...which is more satisfying than not been given the option in the first place even though the answer would've remained the same. Right?
I'm a fairly confident person, and am always forthcoming with my thoughts and opinions but then on the other hand i think that in some rare situations a little white lie or keeping your lips sealed is just easier. Like for example, the wagamamas situation... in cases like that it's always at the back of my mind to pick my battles and not feed into the 'angry black woman' character they're expecting and cause a 'stereotypical' scene.
9 times out of 10 people are equipped to handle the truth, so our half truths and forced smiles/nods are unnecessary. You feel so much better when you've been honest with people and sometimes it takes you being cruel to be kind with friends, family or coworkers for you to be genuinely respected and perhaps even gain a thank-you for it in the long run. The truth feels pretty freeing. Trust me.
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